Emotions when coping with a break up

Denial:
can’t believe that this is happening to us
can’t believe that the relationship is over
Anger:
angry and perhaps enraged at our partner or lover for shaking our world to it’s core

Fear:
frightened by the intensity of our feelings
frightened that we may never love or be loved again
frightened that we may not survive our loss

Self-blame:
blame ourselves for what went wrong
replay our relationship over and over, saying to ourselves, “If only I had done this. If only I had done that”

Sadness:
Crying
Withdrawing from others

Guilt:
feel guilty, particularly if we choose to end a relationship
don’t want to hurt our partner, yet we don’t want to stay in a lifeless relationship

Disorientation and confusion:
don’t know who or where we are anymore
our familiar world has been shattered
have lost our bearings

Hope:
initially fantasize about a reconciliation
think parting is only temporary, that partner will come back to us
heal and accept the reality of the ending
dare to hope for a better world for our self

Bargaining:
plead with our partner to give us a chance. “Don’t go” or “I’ll change this and I’ll change that if only you’ll stay”

Relief:
relieved that there is an ending to the pain, fighting, torment or lifelessness of relationship

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