In drug and alcohol rehab, just like in the rest of life it is hard not to get drawn into other people's agendas and games.  In rehab because of the communal living and closeness, it might at times even be more difficult.  Many times there is no correct answer when someone has an agenda.  What ever you say will be wrong.  They will take wantever you bring forward and turn it against you.  Sometimes they will agrue simply to keep something going at all cost.

If you have someone with an agenda in your life or sphere, what can you do, to not get drawn into their game?  The first thing to realize is that it is a game.  Stop and think about how this game serves them and their needs.  See the game as something they do to avoid painful confrontation and the truth.  It is so easy to draw someone else in and then critisize their actions rather than looking honestly and with discernment at their own true direction.

You can also try to ask some quality questions.  These involve things like, how does this line of thought ultimately serve you and your goals in life?  What is the real purpose here and what do you really want for an outcome from this? 

The other thing that is critical when dealing with people with agendas is to not get deflected off your own path.  Remember your own purpose and outcome.  Do not get drawn into their drama.  Be clear about judgment and gossip.  Focus on what is important for the changes necessary in your own life.  Stay away from games.

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