If you have been in a drug or alcohol rehab program or not, you have probably damaged some realtionships in your life.  What is the key to restoring a realtionship?  What will truly make the difference, so that trust and love flow again.  One is that real change has to take place.  This of course can take one of two forms. 

The first one is to actually change yourself for real.  The change most likely will involve some traits that do not support you in forming the types of relationships you desire.  Judging, lying, lack of trust, are some things that will always, no matter how much you care for someone damage a relationship.  Before anything can be restored you actually have to change these behaviors and replace them with ones that support what you want to have happen.

 The other is a change in attitude.  You can change what you veiw as important in a relationship.  By this I mean simple things like being on time.  If your friend never runs according to a schedule, you can decide that their company and companionship is far, far more important than the clock on the wall.  This is a process of keying in on the values you wish in you realtionships and then not letting details get in the way of love.  Details and rules have damaged and destroyed more close and loving realtionships than anything else.

If your behavior changes, the realtionship will change.  It has too.  But your behavior has to change and be consistent.  You cannot demonstate love and sanity in a realtionship, with insanity.  Stories won't do it.  Drama won't do it.  Manipulation and guilt won't do it.  Behaving in a loving consistent self respecting manner will.  It is call learning how to love.  It's a nice place to live.

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