If changing your behavior about drug and alcohol addiction was easy, we wouldn't have a problem.  We also would not have a need for drug and alcohol rehab centers.  Changes that are difficult to achieve often involve several points along the way where we all tend to get "stuck" and hung up. 

Sometimes it is the fear of "never again" doing something.  It could be a ceratin period of time for instance.  I've heard clients say, "It doesn't matter what I try I always relapse after 2 or 3 weeks".  I could be something in your past that continues to "live on" in the present.  These walls of resistance where we have failed at before are the "stuck" points I am talking about.  We are in one of these areas personally, we often feel we are doing everything humanely possible to change.  We are giving it eveything we have.  Most times it is true.  We really are giving it everything we have.  There is a problem though.  We are trying harder and harder to get past this hurdle, but we are trying to solve it the same way. 

We use the same tools over and over again, just with more force and determination.  Most times when we get stuck in life we simply are having trouble accepting our present solution just will not work.  Then all sorts of personal doubt and fear comes in.  We start to doubt our own self worth, and if we are worthy of this change and to joys it will bring. 

Just because something is not working does not mean you are doomed or "it isn't meant to be!"  It simply means the solution you are trying with doesn't look like it will work.  The beautiful part of being in a drug and alcohol rehab center is you have a group of willing people around you to ask for help.  If you are contantly hung up at one point in you life, why not gather around 5 or 6 people and simply tell them a quick version of your problem and the solution you are using.  Then ask them for 10 other ways to tackle this problem.  Then SHUT UP!  Simply get a peice a paper and write down the ideas they come up with.  Do not comment on them in any way shape or form while they are putting down ideas.

When you get 10 or 12 writen down, ask them to think about if they were you with your skill set and your life, pick an order of 1 to 10.  Order them from their idea of the best to their opinion of the least advantageous.  Again shut up and just listen.  Thank them and leave with your new list.

Then go away by yourself to a nice quiet place in the rehab.  Look at the list.  If you could have anything in life you wanted, would you be willing to try the things on the list?  Because if you do the things on this list, you will most likely leave drug rehab well on the way to getting all the things you want.

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