We all want to help our friends and family.  It is heartwrenching to watch a loved one gradually lose more and more things in their life.  Their relationships, their job and career all deteriorate.  It is so easy to see the solution to some one else's problem.  How do you get them to change?  How do you get them to see solutions?

Firstly you cannot tell people solutions.  Nobody likes to be told what to do?  If you start discussing the negatives in peoples lives, they will just get defensive.  They will just justify their actions against your judgements.  People will only work towards their own solutions.  People will sobatage any external solutions forced on them.  You help, if it is to be effective is to assist them to find their own solutions.  The key, as always lies in asking quality questions.  Ask what is imporatnt in their life.  Ask what they want to accomplish.  Ask what they want to change.  Ask what they have to learn.  Help them find a solution to using drugs and alcohol.  Stop telling people what to do. 

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